Family & Friends


17
Aug 10

Sponsors, write your kids!

If you sponsor a kid through Compassion (or one of the other organizations that encourages letters), and you’re anything like me, you intend to write your kid regularly but don’t get around to it. You probably feel bad when you get a letter and realize it’s been ages since you’ve written, but there’s a lot of mental inertia (and, let’s face it, honest-to-goodness busyness) that keeps you from picking up a pen already.

Let’s get over that.

I’ll be writing more (possibly exclusively) to encourage sponsors here in the future, but in the meantime, I want to encourage you stop putting it off and offer a relatively painless plan for getting back on track, starting today.

I’m making some assumptions for the sake of brevity, so feel free to tailor these ideas to your needs.

  1. Find one or two digital photos of you or a family member doing something that your sponsored kid might find interesting. You don’t have to find it especially interesting (I’m sending photos of my toddler eating). Start with just a few photos so you don’t get overwhelmed. You can always do more once you get in the groove.
  2. If you’re already planning a trip to someplace like Walmart in the next day or two, plop those photos on a USB stick (or with Costco, you can upload them online) and get them printed while you’re there. If not, upload them to a service like Snapfish that will print them and mail them to you. The key here is convenience… don’t pick a method that will let you put it off. And either way you go, you’ll only pay a few bucks.
  3. Today, write your letter. Make it easy on yourself and write about the pictures you’re sending. Explain any background information and talk about what you like about the photo. You don’t need to wait for the photos to be in your hand because you already know what photos you’re sending. If you know of specific questions your kid has asked, go ahead and answer them, but if not, don’t put off writing. You can always write another letter if you later realize you forgot something. It’s more important to get it sent than to get it perfect.
  4. Get the letter ready to send. Fold it up, make sure any relevant sponsorship details are on it (Compassion wants the child’s ID along with the sponsor’s), address and stamp the envelope. The goal is that when you have the photos, you can write the sponsorship details on the the back, stuff them in, and get this thing moving.

I’ll write more in the future about what to put in a letter and other ways you can be a good sponsor, but my fondest hope is that if you’re a sponsor with a letter-starved kid, you’ll take action today. I did. :)


2
Nov 09

Compassion International

Compassion International is one of my favorite charities. They’re one of the big players in “child sponsorship,” and that’s how I’m involved with them at the moment. Poverty is a huge issue, and it’s pretty overwhelming, but Compassion gives me a concrete way to help at least a couple of kids get free.

Compassion is a Christian organization that takes a holistic approach to helping children. They operate in 25 countries and are currently helping over 1 million kids. They work with local churches (I’m a big fan of working with local folks who already have a burden to help) to provide the kids in the program with food, education, and an introduction to the Gospel. They also help parents with everything from parenting skills to vocational training.

Uwitonze Sarah

Uwitonze Sarah

I first started sponsoring Sarah in the summer of 2005 in response to an invitation by Caedmon’s Call, one of my favorite bands. Their Share the Well album is very focused on social justice, so it wasn’t a surprise that they support Compassion’s mission of “[r]eleasing children from poverty in Jesus’ name”.

I picked Sarah because we share our given name and because she was one of the kids who had been waiting a long time for a sponsor. Compassion strongly encourages sponsors to write to their sponsored children, and it’s been very cool to see, even from such a great distance, how she is growing up. She used to just color the pictures that were pre-printed on the stationary, and now she’s writing her own letters in cursive.

A couple of years ago, a local Christian radio station did something unprecidented and asked their listeners to sponsor a whole Compassion project in Honduras (usually when a radio station does this kind of sponsorship drive, the kids come from all over the world, but KTSY wanted one project where they can go visit—they’ve been down there twice and have a third trip planned for next spring).

Lauren Yohana Monje Tróchez

Lauren Yohana Monje Tróchez

At the time, I wasn’t in a position to sponsor another kid, and when they were all sponsored, I was a little sad that I wasn’t able to be involved. The following year, though, some of the younger kids who had previously been too young joined the program, and the radio station sought sponsors for them. That’s when I started sponsoring Yohana.

I haven’t had a chance to go visit my kids yet, but hearing the stories from my friends at the radio station is both awesome and heartbreaking. The incredible poverty that these kids suffer through only emphasizes the incredible love and hope that they have.

Now that I have a son of my own, I want to start contributing to the Child Survival Program to help babies his age. I can’t imagine the universal challenge of childrearing with the added stress of poverty, illiteracy, unsanitary birthing and living conditions, and a lack of knowledge about parenting. Becoming a parent has made me more empathetic in general, but I’m especially moved by the plight of other, less fortunate mothers.

When Benjamin is a little older, we will sponsor a boy his age. My hope is that, in addition to helping someone who desperately needs it, sponsorship will also help develop empathy, compassion, and an awareness of the world in Benjamin.

I’m planning on featuring a child who needs sponsorship as part of this site in the near future, but don’t wait for me! If you want to share the blessings, you can sponsor a child today.


1
Nov 09

Why I give

I’m on the operating board of a non-commercial radio station, and one of the remarks I’ve heard thrown about is that “young people don’t give.” I have no doubt there’s a kernel of truth in that (and I’m sure the speakers have had specific experiences support the conclusion), but it’s obviously not completely true across the board—I’m 27 and give, and have lots of friends who do as well.

The statement does make me think, though. I give little bits to a lot of causes, but only a few consistently receive my dollars (and my love). Clearly, I have some kind of criteria, even if they’re mostly subconscious.

First, the easy one: I give because of who’s asking. This isn’t a strong enough factor for me to commit to ongoing or long-term giving, but when one of my friends asks me to sponsor their charity walk or tells me about organization they care deeply about that needs a one-time gift, I’ll usually bite.

For bigger or longer commitments, I weigh a few more factors:

  • Is the organization effective? This goes a lot further than just having low administrative overhead. I want to see great results.
  • What kind of impact do they have for eternity? There are so many needs in the world that many charities can all work to meet them without overlap, but my money isn’t unlimited so I give preference to those that address spiritual needs as well as physical, mental, social, and emotional needs.
  • Am I needed (and do I know it)? There are charities who may be doing great things, but if they feel impersonal or don’t seem like they need my gift, I don’t give again. I’m not looking for a big public awards ceremony or anything—just a sense that my contribution matters.
  • How far does my money go? Thanks to radically different costs-of-living around the world, the same dollar amount can go much further in other countries. I do give money domestically (for instance, to my local church), but I like how much my money can accomplish when given strategically. I especially like projects that are self-sustaining—projects where today’s successes set up tomorrow’s victories.
  • How urgent and important is the need? Again, there are so many real, important needs in the world that I have to prioritize. I usually go for concrete projects rather than abstract ones as a result.

These are just guidelines, obviously, but they help narrow down the vast field of good charities doing good work in areas that need good solutions.

I’m going to write about some of my favorite charities over the next few days, but in the meantime, I’m curious: what makes you give to one charity over another?


6
Apr 09

The Right Now’s?

I love that no one knows what to call this decade.

I love that no one knows what to call this decade.


5
Nov 08

Quick list and a mini-movie

I’m feeling lazy about posting this week, so I’ll just put up my quick list and leave you with a video I enjoyed. :)

Most Important Tasks

  • Tweaks for one client
  • Write back to theme-creation inquiry
  • Tweaks for another client

The reward

Subscription to All You magazine, which I’ve been tempting myself with for several months.


24
Sep 08

Find a Playspace online

Merle on wipwap
Creative Commons License photo credit: flash.pro

Okay, I don’t have kids yet (well, the one I have is doing all the playing he wants in the womb!) but I came across the KaBOOM Playspace Finder the other day and thought it was a great idea.

It’s basically a Google Maps mashup that lets visitors review “playspaces” (by which I’m assuming they mean parks and playgrounds and such), and browse using a map. They say “there are currently 10468 playspaces in the KaBOOM Playspace Finder,” and there are a few shown within a couple miles of my house, so it seems like it’s got enough info already to be useful.

Besides, kids aren’t the only ones who like playgrounds! :)


25
Jul 08

Upcoming Olympic sports?

From the August 2008 issue of Parents (given to me at BlogHer):

Kids name the sports they'd like to see in the Olympics

I really like Katie’s idea. Continue reading →


27
Jun 08

Why I’m Not a Right-Wing Nutjob

James Dobson.

Image via Wikipedia

Where to start? I guess a good place would be the fact that I am not supporting any particular presidential candidate at this point; I haven’t done enough research to justify support yet. I’m a long-time conservative, but I’m getting more moderate by the year (in part thanks to stupid conservatives). It’s also possibly relevant to this post that I’m pro-life, so naturally I disagree with Barack Obama on the issue of abortion.

However, that’s not what has me irritated at the moment. No, that special honor goes to James Dobson and Tom Minnery of “Focus on the Family Action.” I’m familiar with the Focus on the Family organization (hey, they make “Adventures in Odyssey,” my favorite kids’ radio program) and I’m guessing the “Action” suffix means that this is their political activism arm.

Well, if what I heard today is what constitutes political activism, I really wish they’d either give it up or do a better job of it. Continue reading →


4
Jun 08

Car shopping: a rental test drive?

سيارتي الهوندا أكورد والباب مفتوح من الجانب الأيمن - My Honad accord from the right side and the door open
Creative Commons License photo credit: xfuture911

I’ve heard lots of discussions about renting vs. buying big items, and I pretty much sum up the best advice this way: Rent things you use less than a couple times a year; buy things you use more.

Very straightforward. (Of course, there are probably some exceptions, but it’s a good rule of thumb.)

One piece of advice I read about when to rent caught my eye, though, just because I hadn’t seen it before: when possible, rent the car you’re going to buy for a few days before purchasing it. You’ll get a much better feel for it than on a quick test drive.

This assumes two things:

  1. You’re going to buy a new car. That’s not usually a good financial move, given the instant depreciation and the fact that you can typically buy a slightly used model for thousands less, but some people will ignore that and buy new anyway.
  2. You’re buying a car that rental places rent. Not all cars, and particularly not all packages, will be available for rental.

However, if those two things are true, and you’re at all picky about the car you drive (I’m not; we bought our last vehicle off of eBay because we spotted a great bargain), it makes a lot of sense to invest a little upfront to make sure the big investment is one you’ll be happy with.


10
Apr 08

Happiness, Delivered

After staying up till 1am to complete Monday’s tasks (the book writing in particular), and then the book again last night till almost midnight, plus rising with the mister at 5:30am today, I’m pretty well beat. The core book writing is done and I’m whupped.

I’ve spent today catching up on the neglected clients and projects. It’s draining to feel behind on everything (though admittedly, it’s getting better). I decided to take a break and go get the mail—getting the mail is one of the great (small) pleasures of my life.

Imagine my excitement when I got a package! I love packages!

USPS box

And then I opened the package!

Behold! Organic Gourmet Fudge!

Oh, now you know that’s going to be good!

Fudge!

Now I know you are all incredibly jealous… look at all that fudgy goodness!

A little back-story on the fudge: when I checked my email on Monday morning, I had a super-nice note from Reonne of Earth’s Sweet Pleasures. Over the weekend, she used my WordPress videos to learn to install her blog, appropriately named Chocolate Fudge Cafe (is your mouth watering yet?!).

She appreciated the videos and offered to send me some fudge. Now what sane woman would turn down that offer?!? Not this one! (Though I guess at this point my claim on sanity is a little tenuous…) I didn’t realize that Reonne was going to send me 16 pieces, though!

Honestly, even more than the fudge (which is fantastic, by the way… I kept it intact just long enough for the photos :) ), I’m really touched that she went out of her way to do something so nice. After a very stressful few days, it’s like my soul just sighed with satisfaction.

Ahhhhhhhhh…

Don’t underestimate what your gestures of thoughtfulness can do for another person.